As a marriage counselor in Denver, Colorado I see a lot of couples who come to me for marriage counseling because they’re having s exual difficulties. One of the most common reasons why a couples’ s ex life is struggling is because “We have kids. It’s hard to find the time or energy to get in the mood.”
S exual intimacy is vitally important to a marriage. It creates romance, passion and spark. It’s one of the only things you share with your spouse that you don’t share with anyone else. It’s a special connection that only the two of you can have. When children come around, and you’re not having s ex as frequently as you used to, it’s no wonder couples have marriage problems. They just stop feeling as close or connected.
There are lots of ways having children hampers your s ex life. For one, many couples just don’t have the kind of time to dedicate toward each other that they used to have. Less time for dates and romance usually means less desire for s ex. Second, after a long day of chauffeuring children around, cleaning up after them, making sure they have their homework done, teeth brushed, and they’re off to bed at a decent time, you just don’t feel in the mood for s ex. Finally, as your children grow older — so do you. You just don’t feel as attractive as you used to.
Couples who don’t have a good s ex life rarely have a good marriage. What are some things you can do to keep your s ex life rockin’ after children come knockin? Here are five quick tips: